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Beginners guide to Impact Play

Updated: May 8

Impact play is a form of BDSM that involves the use of physical force for sexual or sensory stimulation. This can include activities such as spanking, flogging, paddling, whipping, and caning.

Often combined with sensation play, bondage and/or domination. It is often misunderstood by those unfamiliar with it, most often being seen as a form of abuse. However when administered with love and care it can be a very powerful experience.

Women being flogged

Why do people enjoy Impact Play?

There are a number of reasons people enjoy impact play, including:

  1. Physical sensation: The impact of a strike can create a physical sensation that some people find pleasurable or arousing.

  2. Power exchange: Impact play can involve a power dynamic where one partner is in control and the other is submitting to their will, which can be a turn-on for some.

  3. Endorphin rush: The body's natural response to pain is to release endorphins, which can create a feeling of euphoria or "subspace" in some individuals.

  4. Emotional release: Impact play can be a way for people to release stress or negative emotions in a safe and consensual environment.

  5. Exploration: Trying new things and exploring different aspects of one's sexuality can be exciting and enjoyable for some individuals.

Impact Play Tips

If you're interested in exploring impact play, here are a few tips for beginners:

  1. Communication is key: Discuss your boundaries, limits, and safe words with your partner before engaging in any impact play activities.

  2. Start slow: Begin with light taps or strokes and gradually increase the intensity as you and your partner become more comfortable.

  3. Know your limits: Make sure that you are aware of your own physical and emotional limits, and that you are comfortable with the level of impact you are receiving.

  4. Use proper technique: Make sure that you are using proper technique when striking your partner, as improper technique can lead to injury or discomfort.

  5. Prioritize safety: Make sure that you are using safe implements for impact play, such as paddles or floggers made from safe materials, and that you are aware of the risks and potential consequences of impact play.

  6. Aftercare: Take time to care for yourself and your partner after engaging in impact play, including talking about the experience and addressing any physical or emotional reactions that may have arisen.

By following these tips, you can explore impact play in a way that is safe, fulfilling, and respectful for all parties involved. Remember that impact play is just one aspect of BDSM and that it's important to prioritize open communication and respect in all BDSM activities.


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